Sunday, 19 June 2011

Try, Hope and Luck

I often go on about how important words are. They differentiate us.  They proceed and set up our actions. And when used wisely are the most powerful tool you have to encourage, motivate and drive yourself and others forward. Politicians are made (and damned) by them, therapists heal with them and leaders inspire with them. Is it any coincidence that professional speech writers are employed by many people across business and sports? We even talk in movie terms about great scripts and admire people who "have a way with words"

So where am I going with this? Well, there are three particular words that I would suggest you delete from your vocabulary. Permanently. They have no value and will hold you back every time they pass your lips. They are energy sappers, ambition thieves and goal terrorists. So what are these heinous words - try, luck and hope. Here's why:

In the words of Master Yoda "Do or not do - there is no try"

Benjamin Franklin wrote "He that lives upon hope will die fasting"

Gary Player said "The harder I practice the luckier I get"

So eradicate them and don't let them underpin your excuses. Replace hope for trust and you'll be amazed at the difference.

Sunday, 12 June 2011

Who's drama is this?

I've had an interesting few weeks with lots of activities, travel, expectations and pressures to get things done. Now this situation and environment is nothing new to me and I actually enjoy having so much going on to the point where I positively encourage myself to create such a hubris. However I had a blip. I got wrapped into joining the problems and spent a few days scratching my head wondering how it had happened. After a little soul searching it was clear I had not practised what I continually preach in my work, blogs and tweets - no need to dwell on in, just recognise it, process it, learn from it and move forwards. Simple.

Now this blog is not about what I did as it was fairly unspectacular but I would like to tell you the story of a response I got from an innocuous tweet I sent just making a statement of my situation. Just at the point I was getting myself back together I got a tweet reply from a valued colleague saying "note to self - who's drama is this?" It hit me so hard I nearly fell over - I kid you not. The reason that this short, uncomplicated statement had such a profound impact is it cut to the core of my issue in a heartbeat. I had allowed myself to get embroiled in other people's "dramas" which added to the problem not the solution.

Now the positives don't end there. I have paid this forward several times in the last few weeks and what seems like a throw away comment has helped numerous people both in my work team and home life. It's as good as it gets. I asked for nothing and gained everything. Yet again an example of what you focus on just happens to appear in your view.

So I would like to thank the incredible @lynnpickford. Your choice words at the perfect time were a tonic for the soul.